Make the Holidays Happier: The Separating Parents Guide

Across the nation, statistics show that January has the highest divorce rate of any other month. It’s no coincidence that many families dissolve mere months after the holiday season. To make your holidays a little easier and more enjoyable for everyone, Weaver, Bennett & Bland, P.A. has some tips to help you and your children to keep the holiday spirit alive:

Plan ahead

One of the best ways to decrease stress around the holidays is to work with the other parent to create a detailed parenting plan well in advance of the holiday season. Develop a schedule, mapping out plans for the holidays to come.

Put the plan in writing

Although it’s not a requirement in NC, it’s a good idea to put your parenting plan terms in writing. The plan can get complicated when the holiday schedule would supersede the regular custodial schedule. In other words, if the child regularly spends every weekend with mom but Father’s Day was a designated holiday for dad, the kids would spend that Sunday with dad instead of mom.

Celebrate with creativity

If you’re unable to have time with your child(ren) on the holiday of your choosing, consider planning your own special celebration with them either before or after the actual holiday. Also arrange a quiet, private time for you to speak to your child(ren), and allow them to speak with other loved ones when they’re in the other parent’s care.

Facilitate gift giving

Coordinate gift-giving with the other parent to avoid gift duplication. Irrespective of your feelings towards the other parent, be sure to give them any gifts, cards, emails or other messages from the other parent while they are with you. Also let them enjoy the gifts they’ve received and take their gifts from home to home if that’s their wish.

Share the love

If your child’s too young to select a gift on their own, help them make or buy a gift for the other parent. This will teach your child(ren) about thoughtful gift-giving and will also have the effect of giving your child(ren) permission to love the other parent.

The holidays can be difficult for everyone when the family unit is in discord, but with a little planning and generosity, you can create new traditions together. The family law attorneys at Weaver, Bennett & Bland, P.A. can help you prepare a parenting plan to ensure that you can enjoy a stress-free holiday season.

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